KHUSH RAHO WITH SANGEETA : To Lie or Not to Lie?

Love and compassion sit at the top of the emotional frequency register. Anger, manipulation, the desire to win, sit at the bottom. What we generate through our words and intentions is what we put into the world, and into our relationships

When did I actually get a sense that he was lying to me all along? It took a while. Slowly, once the intuition hit me that maybe I should not be taking what he said at face value, I started being a little skeptical. And slowly, a pattern of broken promises, lies, and small deceptions began to show up.

I was then dealing with two things: the pain of understanding that the foundations of what I thought was a friendship were false, and my own vulnerability, which had been exposed. This got me thinking about lies in general.

Why do we lie?

The first kind are white lies, born out of compassion and love. As someone once said, "I always lie when my wife asks me how she looks, and I always say, 'You look fantastic.'" Nobody is being hurt, and truth-seeking is not the goal of that interaction. What she wanted was reassurance and validation. These are everyday social lies, harmless, smoothing things over or avoiding discomfort.

Then there are lies told for control, avoiding accountability, or maintaining the image one has built. Evasive lies, where people don't want to explain why they were late, or why a task wasn't done as well as expected. Excuses, for things we were expected to deliver but haven't.

Then there are lies of deception, the kind that got me thinking about all this. What could be gained from making promises with no intention of fulfilling them? It falls under manipulation, managing my emotions so the other person could feel control over me. I was a willing partner, because I chose to believe. I went in with faith. But the person stringing me along was emanating dark energy, because the intention was not good.

And intention is everything. Even truth, delivered without compassion, is a low frequency energy. When people argue, they fling incidents from the past as ammunition, slightly modified truths hurled to wound. The facts may be real, but the intention is dark.

Love and compassion sit at the top of the emotional frequency register. Anger, manipulation, the desire to win, sit at the bottom. What we generate through our words and intentions is what we put into the world, and into our relationships.

Dark energy does not help anything grow. All things need loving, compassionate, positive energy to flourish. Whenever we see a relationship where lies, or even truths, are coming from a place of darker intentions, that is a red flag worth heeding.

The law of Karma is an excellent guide for our personal choices: we get the fruits according to the seeds we sow. If we sow lies and deceit, that is what will mature, in relationships, careers, or other investments.

My personal choice was to acknowledge and release the pain by meditating and going inwards. I could then distance from that friendship and its frequency of manipulation and deception.

Our life is like a garden. I want to nurture mine with energies that help things grow, good seeds tended toward better outcomes, more joy, more fulfilment. Small rituals. Profound healing.

Until next time — Khush Raho! Stay happy, stay healthy.

 (Sangeeta Bhalla

 is an Energy Healer, Instructor, and Therapeutic Aromatherapist. She can be reached at www.sangeetabhalla.net )